I met Tamatha Dever through a mutual friend at the time. Though we had first spoken through a website.
We had our first date scheduled for 7/13/07. Something had come up and she had the opportunity to earn some much needed money for that day working a few nights at the Police concert at Churchill Downs. She invited me in on it to earn money as well. So that was our first date. Afterwards we went to her place and hooked up.
I was immediately smitten by her. I found her very intelligent, mature and attractive. And felt a strong connection that I could stick this relationship out. Instead of it being a passing thing like the relationships I had prior. Because the way she held herself and that she was a church going Christian. I assumed she was a honest and decent person I could trust and learn from.
When Tamatha received the money from working at the Police concert (which some of it belonged to me as well). She started having money problems. I wanted to earn points with Tamatha, so I told her she could hold onto it and pay me when she should. Tamatha claimed that her first ex-husband switched jobs, and wasn’t currently paying child support.
It seemed like one situation after another where Tamatha was in need of money, and most of the time I did not volunteer to help her. I refused to give her money for her cell phone, and car payment. Her daughter became sick with a nerve damage disease in her leg, then herself having trouble with diabetes. But when the story was she didn’t have money to put food on the table and feed her kids. Or that she couldn’t make rent, and her and her kids were going to be homeless. I of course loaned her more money.
All of these unfortunate events were beginning to make me very suspicious, along with her actions. She seemed very unappreciative, and even acted like she was entitled to my money and that I should be more than willing to loan her this money. Even though I felt very uncomfortable loaning anyone money at all! However we were engaged and I loved her very much and really wanted to be with her.
Other situations that made me not trust Tamatha. Was that our mutual friend revealed to me after Tamatha had broken up with me for the first time (which was after I had loaned her money) that Tamatha had un-loyal intentions trying to hook up with someone Patricia was interested in on the internet. When Patricia revealed to the guy in question the myspace page that Tamatha and I shared (which stated that we were engaged) Tamatha of course was embarrassed and immediately deleted the profile, and was the real reason she broke up with me. I of course confronted Tamatha about this on the phone. I was very upset and brow beat Tamatha into reconciling considering I had loaned her money, and had taken her son to his Dr. appointment. Not to mention, I had turned in my notice at my apartment and at work. Because Tamatha and I was engaged and were supposed to get married within the week, and have me move in with her in
From the Police concert Tamatha owed me $130.00. Shortly after, Tamatha had several times suggested that I should propose to her and marry her. And had even sent me an email at work stating “I want you to propose more than the air I breathe” . I had then gone with her to a jewelers at the mall “Le Roy’s” and purchased a bridal set for 1522.97$ and put the ring on her finger. Both rings from then on stayed in her bedroom in
The following day, September 24th. After I got off work, Tamatha called me and told me she wasn’t feeling well due to the pain in her ear and neck from the diabetes. And that she might see me if I was to take her to the hospital. I started to ask her about the money she was supposed to give me, and she hung up on me. This worried me, so I drove over to her house right away. Tamatha then came out of the house and informed me that the cell phone died, and that she was on her way to the booster meeting. I asked her about the money in-front of her two youngest children, Brandon and Haileigh. And she stated that she would hit the ATM after the meeting which shouldn’t take long, and bring me my money. We then hugged, and she told me to be careful because her neck hurt from the diabetes.
Later that night, Tamatha did not show or call, and it was almost 10pm. I called her multiple times. She would not answer the phone or return my text messages. Including the emergency code I put into it. I was worried that either she was going to refuse to return the money, but most of all. That she was sick and needed my help. I drove over to her house, and knocked on the door, rang the doorbell. And even knocked on her window. I was afraid I was going to have to dial 911, or break in and take her to the hospital. But it wasn’t until after I was knocking on her back window. That she sent me a text message stating for me to leave or she’s going to call the cops.
I was of course very upset, and I left. I called and left her a message. I was bitter and was trying to get a reaction from her. And said that I had no intention to be with her and that I just wanted to get my stuff back from her. I stated that I was done, and that I wanted my belongings, the ring and my money back.
After this Tamatha made no attempt to reconcile or explain her actions. She refused to acknowledge that I loaned her $300.00 dollars. That she would pay off the promissory note, and that she’s keeping the rings because they were a gift. And that I was to leave her alone or she going to tell the police I was stalking her. I tried to negotiate a deal for her to keep the $300.00 in exchange for the ring, in hopes that I could get her to admit that she owed me the $300.00, but her reply was that the police are aware that I am stalking her and that she put in an emergency protection order against me for her and her kids.
From then on I did not contact her, except for the envelope sent instructing her on where to mail the money as I was no longer going to be living at
